What's Modest VS. What's Hottest
Everyone wants attention.
That may come off negative, but in reality I think it’s true for all of us. Attention is something we crave as humans. For you, it may not be defined as being the star of the show, it may just mean being loved or feeling like you are wanted by someone. But it is so interesting to me that the more we try to stand out, the more we tend to blend right in.
Modesty.
Everyone has their style. When you hear the word “modesty” you may think of someone very classy and reserved, or maybe you think of someone who is bland and doesn’t have much of a personality. Truth is, I don’t know what you think, but I do know what this value holds to me.
As a young woman it is so easy to seek immediate attention. It makes us feel good to wear clothes we feel reveal our best self, clothes that people may take a second look, compliment us on or maybe boost our social media. But what I have learned, is that the the attention we gain from exposing an un-modest version of our self, is attention that will quickly fade. It is attention that is based on only what the eye sees, on a lustful heart with wrong intention.
There will be a girl that gets more attention because of the low cut tops and shorts. There will be the girl who naturally draws more attention because of her voice or beautiful eyes. You might want to wear that one outfit so he may notice, but deep down is that what you want him to see? What’s the motive? Our world tells us we should dress in whatever we desire because all that matters is our perception. But, if we are walking in light of what Jesus has done for us, we are accountable to represent our self with dignity (Prov. 31). Help your guy friends seek good in women by dressing modestly, by carrying yourself with the material of a committed wife and not a lukewarm girlfriend. You deserve the best and people deserve to see the best in you.
I have learned that finding self-confidence is not about looking on the outward appearance. In fact true self confidence to me, is not found in myself at all. It is found in the one who made me and thought I was more than okay without the tight clothes. The one who thought I was worth the sacrifice, thought I was worth dying for and thought I was worth loving unconditionally.
Take this for the road:
Modesty does not get you the most immediate attention, but it does give you lasting, purposeful attention.
How you dress says a lot about what you want people to see in you.
How you act determines who you attract.